7 Fail-Proof Topics to Talk About on A First Date

Updated: Oct 22, 2021
By Precious Alex-Toji
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Preparing for a date can create such an exciting sensation. You get to take your crush out and talk on varieties of issues. However, if you are a shy guy like me, what to talk about on a date with a girl can pose a problem to a successful date.

You can plan the date, pick out the location, and even check out the menu beforehand but striking an interesting conversation can be the hard part. Plus, you’re meeting the girl who holds the key to your heart; there is that possibility you can go blank when on a date with her.

I personally remember my first “date experience” and how I had no idea what to talk about on a date with the girl and the pause after every little conversation was very awkward. So, to have a memorable date experience, here are 7 things to talk about on a date with a girl.

Things to Talk to About on A Date

1. Talk About What She Likes to do in Her Free time    

One great way to start a conversation with your date is by talking about what she loves to do when she’s free.

Find out what interests her and what hobbies she likes. This allows you to know what interests her and find a common ground for discussion.

For example, you could ask her;

What kind of things do you love to do?

What kind of activities do you anticipate?

Or what would you rather do when less busy?

Talking about her hobbies shows you care about what she’s interested in and how interested you are in her.

2. Talk About Her Passions and Goals

When on a date with a girl, you can talk about her passions and goals as well as what motivates her to action.

Having an idea of your date’s passions is necessary. Passions are one of the few emotions that fuel us to act the way we do. Therefore, if you get to understand her passions, you have an idea of how she’s going to behave. 

Also, knowing what goals she aims to achieve can endear you both together. Her goals say a lot about her confidence and ambitions. It also gives you an idea of where you can play a vital role in her life.

3. Her Life Experiences is Another Thing to Talk About on a Date   

What we experience and have experienced influences how we think and shape our lives.

Talk about her life experiences and yours. Ask about the funniest and weirdest experiences she’s ever had and talk about yours too. When you get her to recall these life experiences, you build a friendly atmosphere and make the environment feel less awkward.

For example, you can ask her about her favourite travel experience and what she most enjoyed about it. Remember to keep the discussion mutual by also telling her about yours.

4. Talk About Her Friends

Friendships form a special part of our lives. Life without friends would be boring and especially uneventful.

So, when on a date with a girl, ask her about her those she considers friends. This way, you get to know the people who influence her personal life [and know if you have any rivals].

Rather than go straight with the “who are your friends” question, you can be stylish about it by asking about-

Who do you usually take out on fun activities?

What activities do you do with friends for fun?

How influential do you think your close friends are on you?

What do you like to do with friends?

5. Asking About Her Favorite Entertainment Interests Is a Good Thing to Talk About On a Date With a Girl

This tip right here is the Harvard University of conversation tips with your date.

Talking from experience, asking about her favourite entertainment interest is a big way to set the conversation going. Girls love to talk about their favourite movies, artists, and even comedy skits.

On one of my “date” outings with an ex-crush, the conversation was getting really awkward till a favourite song of mine was played in the background and I was like “Yo, I love this song” and boom! What was tending towards a disaster became an eventful memory.

When talking about entertainment on a date with a girl, it revolves around anything that screams “fun”. This varies from movies, a genre of music, favourite artiste, favourite club, fashion, and the likes.

6. Talk About Travel Goals 

No matter how much we like to stay indoors, there will always be a dream destination we all love to visit one day.

Girls are particularly very adventurous beings. When on a date with a girl, asking about her travel goals is one way to keep the conversation flowing.

Discussing her travel goals can be entertaining. She might have some fun travel dreams and sharing them with you can be fun.

When I was in secondary, I had a girl I liked in my class but I found it very difficult talking to her. One day in geography class, the teacher grouped us and made us make a list of places we’d love to go. Fortunately, I was in the same group with my crush, and the fact that our dream destination was Paris made it easy to strike a conversation.

7. Compare Your Bucket List With Your Date’s

bucket list is a list of things you wish to accomplish before your death. It could contain your career goals, fun activities you wish to try out, and tons of weird stuff that you want to do.

When the vibe has been built, comparing your to-do list with hers is a great way to smoothen the conversation. Since it’s a date, the focus should be on the fun activities you both wish to try out.

I’m writing this with a smile on my face because my geography class crush had asked me one time “Alex, what are your top three things to do before you graduate?” That question made us make a joint bucket list whose contents I will not give out.

*winks

Conclusion

Not everyone can be as smooth as Charles Melton was to Yara Shahidi in “The Sun is Also a Star”. Many others, like me, suddenly become tongue-tied when our crush sits right in front of us.

These 7 working tips should give you an idea of what to talk about on a date with a girl. Remember that your conversation is a way of connecting with her. Set the conversation to be mutual. Do not do all the asking and talking alone; let her vibe too.

Pro Tip- You do not have to exhaust all these tips on the first date. Pick a few and set the conversation going.

If you have any date experience you’d like to share or tips you’d like to add, feel free to let me know in the comment section!

Check out 15 things every man want in a man and things you should never say on a first date.

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  1. Oshea makeri

    omo! So I tried this today and it worked !
    Alex the relationship masterclass!

    Reply
    • Precious Alex-Toji

      You finally took the bold step!
      I’m happy you followed my blueprint. Stick around for more exciting Content.

      Reply

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